Terry Brussel-Gibbons Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist caries
on the family matchmaking business. She has a BA in Psychology,
a PhD in Clinical Hypnotherapy and is the author of the unique
combination of a workbook Matchmaker's Corner: Choosing, Finding
and Attracting a Life Mate and a guided meditation Recording
Attract Your Special Someone as well many other growth
oriented tapes and books.
The matchmaking tradition has been carried on in Terry's family
since her great grandmother began it in Russia in the late 1800s.
She was a Shatkin very much like Yenta in Fiddler on the Roof.
She continued making matches when the family moved to Chicago
in 1890 as did her daughter Hannah Schneider when she came to
California in the early 1900s. In America, Terry's father
Barry Leon Brussel assisted with the Francis Dumont Social Club
(founded 1910) in the late 1940s. He met Terry's mother through
that service. Francis left the club to Mr. Brussel when she passed
on in 1967. Terry has been plying her trade as a matchmaker
since apprenticing under her father at age 16, just as her daughter
Regina apprenticed under her at the same age in 1989. Terry has
appeared on CBS News and Eye Witness News on Valentine’s
Day—with Matchmaker, Matchmaker from Fiddler on the Roof
playing in the background.
PARTNERING PATTERNS
Do you pick women who remind you of your mother who nagged you?
Your first boy friend who was an alcoholic? A matchmaker
can offset negative partnering patterns. Your personal matchmaker
will introduce you to a selection of people who will be appropriate
for you rather than a selection of people who will continue to
mess up your life? Relationship coaching (and her book on
this subject), can help you to consciously decide how to choose
the right life (or just romantic) partner for you. Hypnosis can
assist you with this by changing who you are attracted to through
hypnotic age regression – rewriting your life script so
it is as though you had always had more positive partnering patterns
based on good, objective decisions along with your emotions.
“DO-IT-YOURSELF KIT” TO
DEVELOP POSITIVE PARTNERING PATTERNS
This is a tool which you can use to decide if a caller from
a personal ad is worth meeting, whether an attractive someone
you meet at a dance is worth dating, whether someone you've seen
a few times is worth getting serious with, etc. You'll start
with something very basic and keep honing it to suit you.
Begin by listing your three most important love relationships.
List also your opposite sex parent if this person helped
raise you. Write down all characteristics at least three
out of four of these people had in common -- height, hair length,
religion, reading preferences, anything. Don't worry about
whether the characteristic is negative or positive yet. When finished,
mark the things that were good for that relationship with a ‘+’,
the things that were bad for it with a - and the neutral with
a ‘0’. Use these notes for ideas as you
now list those attributes you consider essential in a relationship
(E), those you'd like to have (L), and those you absolutely don't
want (N). (E's) are ‘10’, ‘20’,
‘30’, ‘40’ or ‘50’. (L’s)
are ‘7-9’ points, (N's) are negative ‘20-100’.
Score those three most important love relationships from the past
and a new someone you are considering on each of the Essentials
and the Likes. Deduct anything on the Absolutely Not list. Those
are meant to be deal breakers. You will wind up with a percentage
like a test score. You determine how high of a percentage
is required for a second date. a third one or a deeper commitment.
This tool will change as you use it. You may find you aren't
asking enough from a partner. If you deserve better, work
on your self esteem. Hypnotic age regression can help. If
you are Joe Shmo asking for Miss America, you can either lower
your requirements to something more reasonable or raise
your qualifications through education, success training, etc.
to become someone Miss America would accept. This also applies
to Jane Shmo looking to meet Mr. Rich and Handsome. To get
someone wonderful, become someone wonderful. Hypnosis can
help here, too. So can communication workshops, sensitivity
groups, etc.
MEDITATION FOR ATTRACTING LOVE
Breath deeply. Calm yourself. Relax every muscle in your body.
Enter a meditative state, a state in which you are suggestible
to yourself. See yourself in a joyous and fulfilling relationship.
Imagine the lover you want with you in that relationship--the
touch of that lover, the feel of that lover, the personality,
the look, the kind of career, whatever is important to you. Imagine
the you are who has attracted such a lover. Imagine yourself strong,
confident, relaxed, and loving. Feeling good about yourself.
Imagine yourself attractive inside and out, in excellent physical
condition, able to communicate effectively and lovingly, enjoying
your sexuality fully while sharing deeply with this special lover.
Able to do all those things that are important to you and do them
well. Feel yourself changing now. Becoming the person
you wish to be in the relationship you wish to have. Changing
now, moving in the right direction.
Give yourself the suggestion that each and every moment, each
and every day, you are more and more the person you wish to be.
Each and every moment of each and every day, you draw nearer and
nearer to accomplishing your goals.
Feel the image of yourself as you wish to be sinking deep within
you. Becoming part of you. Changing as you change.
Moving forward as you do and always you are moving forward.
Always you are becoming the person you wish to be. Knowing
this and confident in the fact, you feel yourself swimming strongly,
easily towards the shore, knowing, as you reach it that you can
and you will reach your goals, you can and you are reaching your
goals. Feel yourself resting now on the soft warm sand.
Feel the light of the sun entering you, warming you, soothing
and healing, strengthening, energizing, and stimulating you.
Feel the Light within and without. The Light ignites within
you a feeling of being in touch with your own love for yourself,
a deep and abiding caring for all the makes you who you are.
You deeply love the you you are and the you you are becoming.
From this deep inner love for yourself comes a feeling of-- space--
in your life for another special person to deeply love, a person
you can be in joyous and fulfilling relationship with. You
feel yourself ready for such a relationship, drawing it to you
in the Light. Drawing this very special person to you in
the Light.
Imagine a hollow tube reaching from the top of your head all the
way through your being. Fill that tube with an intense belief
in yourself, in your own abilities to learn what you need to know
to accomplish your goals. Fill it with a deep and abiding
love for the You you are and the You you are becoming, the you
you are creating with the knowledge you are gathering and the
personal growth exercises you are doing. Fill it with the
power to attract a lasting, joyous and mutually fulfilling relationship,
a magnet of Light attracting your special love into your life.
Power your belief in yourself and in your ability to attract
your special love with warm, strong White Light; strengthening
you, energizing you, empowering you to accomplish your goals in
life and in love.
Each time you focus on your inner core of strength, light, and
love - you feel stronger more powerful more capable of attracting
the relationship you want and maintaining that relationship in
a way which is lasting, joyous, fulfilling and growth stimulating
for both of you. Feel Light, strength and energy flowing
through you, strengthening you, energizing you and empowering
you to accomplish your goals in life and in love.
Personal ads, singles dances, and the bar scene may work for
some singles, but for someone with marriage in mind, your own
matchmaker may provide a better alternative.
Who goes to a matchmaker? Selective, successful (and
busy) singles who are seeking a quality life mate are most frequently
the ones to hire a matchmaker.
When you meet a person at a singles event, all you know about
them initially is their name and appearance. You won't know,
probably for quite a while, if they are compatible with you or
not. And you won't know unless you ask the awkward question,
if they are truly interested in marriage.
There is much personal data that the matchmaker comes to know
about a client that in normal hit or miss conversations you have
no way of finding out until you're well along in the relationship.
Perhaps, by then, some of your original requirements may not seem
as important because you've fallen in love. Later, when
some of the magic wears off and you're trying to live together,
some of the conditions you let pass may turn out to be essential
for a lasting relationship.
Matchmaking, your “Do It Yourself Kit”, relationship
coaching and hypnotherapy are time savers and ways to avoid some
painfully bad choices. If your time is valuable, you
don't want to be spending your Saturday nights in bars (or even
random singles events) waiting for your right one to fall in your
lap. You certainly don't want to waste weeks or months on
a relationship which isn't going anywhere due to basic incompatibilities
you didn't discover early enough. A bad marriage can be considerably
worse. Instead, you want to spend your valuable time in
the company of a person with whom you can share more lasting love
delights...
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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Terry Brussel-Gibbons, PhD, is a certified Clinical Hypnotherapist
with experience in her field since 1969. She is also a Fourth
Generation Matchmaker. She is the Director of Success Center
in Encino, California. She is also a success coach, keynote
speaker, hypnotherapist trainer and author.
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